Take the Beating

Call me thick skulled but it has taken me a long time to understand this important principle: most of my wife’s anger no matter how much it seems unrelated to my addiction is absolutely connected. Realizing that gave me the perspective I needed to accept the beating. As soon as I did that, the long, drawn out arguments were greatly minimized. Many of you may have already realized the uncomfortable realization that all anger, all[...]

Win by Setting a Failure Penalty

One hundred and sixty five dollars is how much I put at risk for my current goal to lose 9 lbs in two months. Eleven people are part of my support network and their payout if I fail is $15. While the small dollar figure is really quite inconsequential to each of these people, it has had a powerful effect as a penalty to me if I fail. Six of those 11 people are members[...]